Breaking free of Patterns

Breaking free of Patterns/ Repeated Reactions using EFT

“This is a pattern in my life. I can’t seem to break this…”

“This is a pattern that grips me. I just don’t know what takes over my senses, I react and then  feel guilty. It is  too late.”

I have found the following approach to be useful when dealing with repeated reactions.

Few examples:

-          I wish to be free of an anger outburst when dealing with “x” person.

-          I wish to be free of my pattern of moving away from anyone who expresses their sentiments to me.

-          I become speechless when someone takes over and starts speaking. I wish to be free of this.

Let us take the second example:

“I wish to be free of my pattern of moving away from anyone who expresses their sentiments to me.”

When this happens the next time, I would observe what my thoughts or feelings are just before I move away from the person.

(I can also tune into a past incident).

My feelings/ my thoughts might be:

This person is trying to control me.

Here, EFT set up could be

Even though I feel (name of the person) is trying to control me………

Or, maybe

I am losing my freedom.

I cannot handle sentiments and tears.

I will lose control.

I will lose my identity.

I am feeling violated.

I will be manipulated.

I may not always know what my thoughts or feelings are. I may have a physical sensation – like a tightness in my chest, sudden heavy breathing, knot in my stomach… I can tap, tuning into the specific  sensation.If thoughts or feelings pop up, I can tap on those as well.

Even though this feeling is in the  tightness in my chest….

Aspects could surface  – layers of feelings/thoughts/ specific events that I can further tap on to experience total freedom.

It is said that the longer a particular pattern persists, the greater their tendency to resist change.

I can address this with EFT. Here are some suggestions:

I ask myself -

- If I am free of this pattern, what will that mean?

- When I am free of this pattern, how will  I experience this relationship?

- When I begin to respond instead of react, in what ways can we all benefit?

I can explore my answers and tap for the specific aspects that may surface.

For ex: If the answer to

“If I am free of this pattern, what will that mean?” could be

“I wouldn’t know how to deal with my emotions. I may not feel safe. I may not know how to protect my feelings. I may not be safe. Others may take advantage of me.  I will become an emotional fool….”

Here, EFT set up could be

Even though I don’t know how to deal with my emotions yet, I lovingly approve of myself and forgive myself anyway…

I can also use the answers in  Dr. Carrington’s  Choices Method format.

….. I choose to feel safe to let go and explore newer ways of being.

….. I choose to call upon my inner wisdom to guide me.

Being free of such patterns have helped me personally  in  experiencing and acting with Awareness, in the present moment.

Many clients have shared that ‘releasing’ such patterns/repetitive reactions have brought about more ease in their relationships with themselves and  with others.

I hope this is useful for you.

Warm Regards,

Jasmine

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